Will Counselling Help Me in Bradford and Halifax | James Pearson Counsellor | What Is Counselling
James Pearson Counsellor | Bradford and Halifax Counselling | What Is Counselling

Will Counselling in

Bradford or Halifax Help Me?

Does Counselling in Bradford and Halifax really help?

Spoiler alert! Yes it does! The success stories flying out of Counselling Rooms all over the world on a daily basis speak to this as being the truth… but how do you know if Counselling will help YOU?

Let me see if I can dispel some of the doubt for you, bring a little hope for brighter tomorrows, and share a little of the types of success stories I’ve personally witnessed from wonderful people I’ve helped in Bradford and Halifax.

Ready? OK, let’s get stuck in…

How can Counselling in Bradford and Halifax help me?

Counselling is a form of Talk Therapy offering you a safe space to explore your feelings and emotions without the pressure of expectations, opinions or judgements. It is my belief that struggles and road blocks in our lives come about as a result of trying to live in alignment with beliefs, values and ideals that are not our own. In short, we fight against the tide because we’re swimming in the wrong ocean! Often we need a little help to find our way back to shore. Counselling in this regard can act as a beacon or guiding light, moving you closer to where you want to be, personally and emotionally.

Something of a consistent when a client arrives for therapy for the very first time, they are seeking help to try to move away from something. As sessions continue, a trusting relationship is formed, we call this the “therapeutic relationship”. This uniquely accepting and caring relationship expands the range of what feels safe to share and safe to discuss. Within this kind of helping relationship clients have an almost invariable shift, coming to feel like they are now moving towards something.

The first impulse is normally therefore to rid ourselves of something which is pulling us down, feelings like anger or depression. The resulting effect of successful therapy is to shift that narrative, which is usually expressed in terms of absolutes - “I’ll never be happy”, “I’ll never get over this”, “I’ll never be understood”, into seeing and believing in what IS possible. More often than not, these new possibilities are completely surprising as we have spent years denying or suppressing truths. In my experience, my Counselling services in Bradford and Halifax help to metaphorically open the curtains. Alongside that comes a peaceful, more fluid way of being.

It’s very hard to describe with words how it helps, many have tried, but it is not unlike a loosening of that tension, a calmer more acceptant space where you feel more authentically yourself. Through the rough and the smooth, you still feel it all, but the newness of your expanded awareness allows for more accurate feeling and processing of your experience. You’re still you, perhaps more so than ever, but flowing with the current of your experience on your terms, rather than fighting against it and trying to conform to who you are not, or who you thought you should be.

My approach to Counselling helps to provide a freedom from the weight of feelings denied. You’re ready to face the world again but this time, there’s a comfort in being yourself and sharing that wonderful person with others.

How does my Counselling Service work?

Most of our experience in life up to this point is one of conformed expectations. From the moment we are born we are radically trying to conform to the expectations of those around us, for better or worse, yearning for acceptance and connection. Our societal structure mandates that we behave in certain ways and conform to certain behaviours which are considered acceptable across the spectrum of our daily lives - from school, to work, to social gatherings. Some of these expected behaviours are good and helpful, forming the basis of a safe and equitable society. Others however are completely antagonistic to our natural way of being and cause us great distress if we do not fit the descriptions of what “other” people, sometimes those in positions of power, consider “normal”. Normal to you, to me, to him, to her, to they is infinitely variable and acceptance of this, for others and for ourselves is probably the key to a much better way of life for everyone.

Imagine then, if you will, a space where none of the above applies. A meeting of much deeper psychological contact where two people are engaged in conversation where there are no expectations, no judgements, freedom to be and talk about who you REALLY are and how your REALLY feel. No consequences, no danger, no risk. This is exactly what my Counselling services in Bradford and Halifax helps to offer to you.

The beauty of being free in this exclusive space affords a kind of personality adjustment that you don’t find anywhere else. The constant, reliable, dependable, friendly, welcoming acceptance of your Therapist builds a special kind of confidence in yourself, a belief in your TRUE self, as you want to be. As you tentatively test out aspects of your personality, you feel and experience what it is like to be seen, to be truly seen, and the warmth you begin to experience towards yourself carries forward into your daily life outside of the Counselling Room.

This new found confidence in yourself enables a kind of openness to all aspects of your experience, assimilated into a person who is no longer fighting against that which doesn’t fit. A person who is more aligned with movement towards satisfaction and self directed behaviour that does fit. This is ultimately how Counselling helps.

What do I need to do in Counselling for it to help me?

I believe that every Counsellor will have a slightly different take on the answer to this question. I’m happy to share my views on what I believe helps here. I’d say the answer for me lies more orientated towards what you no longer need to do. Much of the success you can experience will lie in letting go of false beliefs, cognitive distortions and what we call “introjected” messages, those messages or instructions you’ve embodied from other people, but never believed in yourself. To achieve that, you simply need to believe in the process. Trust the moment of self confidence you had in yourself when you decided to seek help and support, and see it through. Pursue that light you originally saw and hold onto the hope, even if every strand in your body is screaming at you to stop.

Yes, I’ve held space with clients who have found the strength to arrive at their Counselling sessions seeking help at the very lowest points of their experience. Sessions flooded with tears, depression, rage, anger, pain, grief, loss, all equally hard and seemingly impossible to overcome. I welcome you to bring your emotions, to let them out, to give them voice and space. Allowing another to see you regardless of where you are and how you feel is one the key steps to helping yourself to welcome a broader range of emotional experiences. This is where healing begins. Your Therapy becomes a safe space for you to express anything, confidentially and where your world views are respected and accepted fully.

As a person-centered Counsellor in Bradford and Halifax who also works Integratively, I help by being largely non-directive. I won’t make recommendations, insist on certain approaches or lead you in any particular direction without us forming a plan together. That being said, human being to human being, if you decide to come to Counselling, commit to that intention, be brave, be bold, live the hurt, live the pain, sit with the difficult experiences and emotions. You’re doing the work and you’ll see the benefits, and yes, it will take time. The benefits to the rest of your life and the amazing experiences within that life will be worth it a thousand times over. It won’t feel impossible forever and I honestly believe that with commitment you will achieve what you seek. I also believe that you already have it within you, we just need to work together to ease it back out.

What can I come to Counselling in Bradford and Halifax for?

As a person-centered Counsellor in Bradford and Halifax I believe that each of us holds a special kind of uniqueness and any attempt to define us within rigid definitions does a disservice to our amazing gifts, personalities and achievements. A person in my view is a living, breathing, self orientating, capable and adaptable being. To that end, my basic desire is to see you as a unique individual, to understand YOUR worldview, YOUR perspective. To achieve that, I put much of myself aside as I get alongside you and together we walk through your experience, gently asking questions, unpacking and coming to better understand YOU in the ways that YOU would like to be understood. That is what I have found to help the most.

So you may come to Counselling for Anger, Depression, Anxiety, Relationships, ADHD, Autism, Bereavement, low Self-Confidence, Communication Challenges or something I haven’t listed, and you can be sure that it will be accepted as part of your experience, your person. I don’t “treat” the problem so much as help you with genuine kindness, care and attention to help you to make sense of your own experience as it is so keenly felt by you. The first impulse in all of us is to try to escape from the challenge, the difficulty, the pain, and there are approaches which offer this kind of solution. I feel that a wider view is more beneficial, working on expanding awareness of your emotional experience will help in all aspects of your life. This is true now, and in the future. A more lasting and effectual helpful change is what I believe is offered here.

I have also been trained as an “Integrative” therapist meaning that I am able to “assimilate” models or approaches to therapy from other modalities which may help aid your understanding or open pathways to alternative discussions and considerations which were previously hard to describe. We use these models only to gain a perspective or to shape the nature of our Talking Therapy and the key will always be that self exploration facilitated in the best way possible.

Next steps

The most important aspect of therapy is possibly the connection you feel with your Therapist. To that end, I offer a free 15 minute chat for you to assess whether I am the right Therapist for you. Nothing can beat that experience of actually talking to someone and trusting your gut reaction. My clients describe me as warm and friendly, putting them at ease right from the first encounter. Please feel free to explore whether this is the kind of experience that you’re looking for.

Further reading

You might also be interested in reading more about how my approach adapts to different presenting challenges.

Counselling for Depression in Bradford and Halifax here.

Counselling for Anger in Bradford and Halifax here.

James Pearson Signature Counsellor in Bradford and Halifax